I sent my first message nervously, wondering what reply might come back, and was slightly surprised and disappointed when nothing happened.
Now, after messaging 87 different ladies, none of whom have replied either. My goal is now a nihilistic one: I want to get to people messaged with no reply before quitting for good.
Can you help me get a happier ending?
Hide your profiles, or delete them, for at least a month. This is not the right frame of mind to meet anyone.
Would you go to the movies if going to the movies made you feel miserable? Take a breather and focus on other ways that you enjoy spending your time.
This is a bit self-defeating. Imagine reading an advertisement for a product you were interested in, with a footnote that read: Imagine me coming over to your home. You would think I was annoying. Which is maybe judgmental of me! But there you go. You are a fascinating person with a broad range of interests and accomplishments. You have included them all here. Think about the real-life parallel: You would share just enough information to intrigue her.
Cut the length of your profile in half.
Think that when you meet someone you really like, who really likes you, you will have plenty of time to discuss your hopes and dreams and favorite foods. In truth, there are a lot of women who are also looking for long-term commitment. But keeping in mind the idea that an online profile is like an initial introduction, bringing up a lifelong relationship as a goal on first online encounter might scare a lot of people.
Omit your future plans here — if you and a potential partner have a future together, you will have plenty of time to bring it up. One personal question is cute and fun; a list of personal questions can feel like too much work. Think conversation starters, not an entire conversation. You just need one good one.
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