I mean we hope so right? Is this some kind of test? Why does he ask this question and what answer does he expect? Some are offended by this question. They think wow what is he implying. Is he asking if I am a bitch? Is he thinking I am hard to live with?
What magical answer is he looking for?
Do Not go on the defense. If you feel like you have to justify yourself and the reason you are still single. If you feel this, stop right here and go look in the mirror. In other words you ask yourself the same thing if you are honest with yourself. Maybe this question is a trigger for you.
Maybe you are projecting how you feel about self onto him if you feel you have to defend.
The pick up artists teach these kind of questions. A qualifying question is one where the man asks the woman a question that causes her to sell herself to him.
If you find yourself going into pitch about how you are over qualified, because you are not going to settle, because you have high standards as so forth and so on, is you jumping into the role of the seller. The fairy tale answer. Right Why do guys ask why are you single not come along yet. Most men when qualifying you as mentioned above may think you are high maintenance or unrealistic. Living up to a fairy tale or high expectations of romance is not at the forefront of the minds of most men.
Men are visual ladies and your words paint pictures in their heads. Usually not the pictures you or I would imagine.
You flip it back on him. This is an opportunity to create a common bond and flirt at the same time.
How do you do that. You can tilt your head slightly, or playfully touch his arm if you want more impact but only if this feels natural to you. He will know the difference.
There is evidence of this on Facebook constantly. Watch someone post about their ailment and watch how many people comment with the same ailment comparing remedies. Women with Feminine Mystique just do this sort of thing naturally. Have you tapped into your feminine energy and cultivated your feminine mystique? How did this beautiful woman reject the masses of dudes that hit on her constantly? Some people have an ability to read into people and can get away with replying back with humor.
Then leave it alone.
But my question still remains what would you answer someone that asks why you still single? Especially when that person is NOT single. Can be someone you just met, or someone you work with. I really do not know what to answer. Probably because we see a lot of each other and we grew very fond of each other. Would love to talk privately.
Katarina, what if he asks this question and he is not single, but he likes you? What should one answer?