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Often when people want a new relationship, they either look for someone to complete them or Want true love imagine sharing their life with someone just like them. So they try to present themselves in the best possible light for their imagined future partner—either as one perfect half of a whole or as an ideal version of what they believe their future partner will want. In my experience, finding your soul mate requires a different, far more soul-enriching approach.

Here are six steps that worked for me:. I "Want true love" to turn my attention inward—to get to know and accept myselfto heal past wounds, and to explore and develop new parts of myself.

Previously, I needed to be with someone in order to feel content, to have someone love me in order to feel loved. Breaking up with past boyfriends was so painful because it felt as if I was breaking up, as if I was being torn from a part of myself. What I discovered was that I had to learn to be whole.

And when I started to work on that, my life changed. When I started to discover more about myself and to follow my own pathI started to live a life that was meaningful to me. This can disappoint some people close to you, such as your family. But if you want Want true love find fulfillment in your life, you have to fulfill yourself, not someone else! And doing what is right for you Want true love you will be in places, jobs, and near people that are aligned with your life path, and with you.

So you will have a much better chance of meeting your soul mate, because your soul mate will also be connected to your life path. A side effect of leading the life you choose is that you automatically become more attractive. You become more real, authentic, substantial, valuable, passionate, happy, and present. This makes you more beautiful in a natural and effortless way, and it will also make you attractive to your soul mate.

Whereas when you try to make yourself attractive in order to find someone, you alter the way you behave and present yourself so that if your soul mate were Want true love show up, he or she might not even recognize you. So just be yourselfwhether that means you dress in corporate Want true love or resort wear, or casual clothing or more formal, or if your preference changes at different times.

Go to the gym only if you love it, do yoga if you love it, walk or surf or cycle Want true love you enjoy those activities. A partner who you will be with over the long term will not make a decision about your worth based on a superficial aspect of your appearance.

So tap into what feels right for you, do the activities you enjoy, wear the clothes that suit you Want true love in which you feel comfortable. You will be far more attractive to your soul mate if you look like yourself when you meet them. Most of us express only a small part of who we are. We limit ourselves to the personality—or self—we have become in response to our childhood environment.

This is an unavoidable stage in our developmental Want true love because we have to form a self—or ego—that enables us to survive and hopefully thrive in our family and social setting. It is like we are unconsciously trying to complete ourselves through our relationships.

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These relationships usually Want true love intense attraction at first and are characterized by feelings of completeness. But inevitably, they become stifled by strong relationship patterns that form where people get stuck relating to one another from one main part of themselves that bonds with its opposite in the other person.

But then when stresses and vulnerabilities arise in the relationship, these bonding patterns turn negative, and the partners turn on each other.

This is, indeed, the secret...

I am so grateful to have learned about bonding patterns because the awareness of them not only helps enormously Want true love my relationship, but they also act as a guide for which parts of myself I have lost connection to. Because bonding patterns are the natural way that we give and receive love, they are unavoidable.

But bonding patterns can be navigated successfully. When you become aware that you are attracted to other people because of what you have disowned in yourself, and then work on owning those qualities in yourself, your relationships transform. If you are in a relationship already and you begin this process, then as you and your partner reclaim your disowned selves, you start to become more fully yourselves with each other and your relationship will become richer.

And this was one of those. When I got to that party, Want true love he was: And it was a surprise to meet him there.

If I had been intentionally looking for a partner, I probably would not have even spoken to Want true love husband that night. When you look at each person you encounter as if you are screening them for a job with a life-long contract, it changes the organic flow of events and natural connection that forms with the people you encounter.

The simplest way to stop assessing others as potential life partners is to just stop looking for a partner and connect with the people you meet with genuine interest. When you meet someone you have a good connection with, allow that connection to develop and grow. If the person is a soul mate, he or she will Want true love be into you, so if you both pay genuine attention to each other then something will develop.

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